Welcome to The Addict’s Wife

Here I am, in a place I never thought I would be. RECOVERY! Just like you probably thought, recovery is for the addict. Right? Over the last few years I have learned that addiction is a family disease, and all those connected to the addict will require just as much recovery, and in some cases more. There were some days that I was just as crazy as the addict. As humbling as it is to say, some days I was even crazier. All those behaviors I came to despise in him, I began to see in myself. He was obsessed over his drug of choice, and I was obsessed over stopping him from using it. He was constantly in fear of living life sober, and I was fearful of what my life would become if he wasn’t. He was living a double life to hide his addiction, and I was losing my life through his addiction.

But one day I said, enough is enough. I knew I couldn’t keep doing life like this, and I needed help. Once I realized that I would never make it without support I attended my first local recovery meeting. I was mesmerized by their stories, mostly because they were my stories. I found myself sitting in a room full of me’s. I heard people say they had been in support groups for 10,20, and even 30 years. What I just couldn’t wrap my mind around was WHY ARE THEY SMILING. After more Meetings than I can count, I finally got my answer. They have learned how to live a life of peace, joy, contentment, and even happiness despite the addict in their life. If you are thinking that’s impossible, I’m here to tell you it’s not. This brings me to the purpose of my blog. I just want to help others love their life, love their addict, and most importantly love themselves. We will always be better together than we are alone, so don’t give up….. we got this!

“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending